Monthly Archives: December 2015

Shaping My Behavior To Meet My Children’s Needs

I recently had the privilege of attending a workshop run by Dr Shefali Tsabary, the author of “The Conscious Parent”. It was incredible. It was truly transformational. Dr Shefali is not only hypnotizingly beautiful, inside and out, but mesmerizingly eloquent and clear with her message to me:  My children are my greatest teachers – if I allow them My children teach me to become what they need me to be I am raising myself to raise my children – I am not raising my children It is not my children who need “fixed” it is me My children respond to me in the only way they know how They respond in a way to meet their needs Parent moment to moment Meet the AS IS of the situation with no judgment or agenda Parent from essence and abundance, not ego and lack On the cover of this outstanding book, running parallel, in between the words in the title, “The Conscious Parent”, are two, powerful smaller lines of text: transforming ourselves  empowering our children  “How do I do this? How do I become more conscious?” Parent from a place of what IS, not what IF… Parent from abundance, not lack Honor …Read more →

Shaping Our Parenting Behavior For Report Cards

Last week I wrote about report cards and invited you to really think about what they mean for you. Today, I’m going to focus on the impact that our chosen response might have on our children surrounding their report cards and how we can shape our behavior positively. “Hey Mom, did you get my report card?” asked my son yesterday “Yes I did, it came last Friday” “How did I do?” “Have you seen it yet?” “No!” “Oh, sorry, I thought you’d seen it at school. Here it is, when you have read it you can tell me what you think of it?” This is exactly how the conversation with my son played out last week. I had actually read the report a few days prior to him asking me but had totally overlooked it in the busyness of life… When we did discuss it, I made a huge effort to consciously shape my behavior and response to one of encouragement. The subsequent conversation we had was highly productive and positive. I’d like you to take a look at the two perspectives below. They are both at the ‘extreme’ish’ end of each spectrum but I did so in order to …Read more →