Monthly Archives: June 2018

DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH BOUNDARIES & SCREEN TIME?

Whatever you do, you can’t seem to get it right. You know you should be able to set effective boundaries and hold the limits around screen time AND other things too, but as hard as you try, more often than not, the boundary you set is ineffective. You say YES when you know you should say NO. You say NO and wonder why you did! The pushback you get from your child causes you to either cave or put your foot down too hard. You don’t listen to what it is you really need and don’t respect yourself for not giving yourself what you need or giving your child what you know they need. Another battle. Caught in a spiral. Your inability to set healthy boundaries makes you feel like your child takes advantage of you and you feel like a disrespected doormat. Yes? I hear you. I know what this feels like. I felt this way for a long time, but no longer. And I’m going to share with you HOW I changed it. This 6 step process will show you exactly what you need to do. And I have created a Boundaries Guide & Workbook to really help …Read more →

How To Set Extraordinarily Effective Boundaries Around Screen Time

Boundaries and respect. Respect and boundaries. Chicken or the egg? Why are we talking about respect, I want to create killer boundaries around screen time and other things! I bet you’ve never really thought about respect and boundaries in the same breath. Believe me, neither had I! However, it is only when you understand the close relationship between these two things, that you will be able to shift from being so so at setting boundaries and crap at holding the limits to being good at setting boundaries and kickass good at holding the limits. Boundaries alone are not enough. I’m going to generalize here, but, most of us moms are not bad at setting “the boundary” ie. saying what needs to be done. But sadly that’s often where it ends! It’s the next piece that gets us: we are not so great at holding the limits. You know the story, as soon as you get the push back, you cave or dig in so hard that you end up in a “Battle of the Boundary”. So, what on earth have boundaries got to do with respect I hear you say? A LOT! In the work I do with parents, the …Read more →

Top Strategies For Discussing Report Cards

  Report cards are almost here! Over the last couple of weeks on The Parenting In The Thick Of It Podcast I have spoken about the subject of report cards and how we “react” to them and more importantly how we can foster responses  to build courage and self-motivation in our children. This time of the year can be a stressful one for parents but also for children. Kids today are under so much pressure to achieve that I believe it is almost at breaking point. In this Episode 26: Exams, Tests, End Of The Year Pressure…Help! I discuss ways in which you can deal with this, specifically in helping you shift your focus from the grade or result to the process to help your children develop courage and self-motivation. It’s such an important thing to think about and I was fortunate to have been given the opportunity to understand this early on in my life as a parent. As such I wanted to share some of the things that I have learned so that you can adopt some of my strategies around discussing report cards to help you build courage and self-esteem and motivation in your child. I invite you …Read more →