Category Archives: Books

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – Step 6

Last week I discussed the fifth step in Cheryl Richardson’s book “Take Time for Your Life”. This week I will be looking at Step 6 and applying it to how we can help ourselves become better parents or the parents we want to be. Step 6: “If you feel lonely or isolated, learn how to surround yourself with high-quality relationships that support, challenge and encourage you to be your best”. I consider myself very fortunate to have grown up in a small village in Scotland and remember my childhood with the fondest of memories. There were only 3000 people in this village and the sense of community, even as a child, was palpable. Everyone knew who you were, everyone looked out for you and we all really felt like we belonged and above all felt extremely safe. I am sure that some of you reading this may have similar memories of their childhood and the sense of community that was had and felt. I have to wonder if in the space of just one generation we are somewhat losing our sense of community and it deeply saddens me. There are possibly many reasons for it, one of the main ones …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – Step 5

Last week I discussed the fourth step in Cheryl Richardson’s book “Take Time for Your Life”. This week I will be looking at Step 5 and applying it to how we can help ourselves become better parents or the parents we want to be. Step 5: “Kick the adrenaline habit! Identify the things that fuel you and discover healthy, new sources of energy.” In Step 3, we looked at the things that drain us and the things that fuel us but we have to know where we are getting our energy from in order to guarantee that we are getting the right type of fuel. Richardson expands on this further during step 5. She describes two types of fuel; premium fuel (derived from things like exercise, nutritious food, love and support) and junk fuel (derived from things like fear, anxiety, and external stimulants like caffeine and sugar). These junk fuels all contribute to the most widely used fuel in America today – ADRENALINE. Many of us are familiar with the term: “fight, flight or freeze”. This is one of our in built systems which is used in emergency situations or should only be used in such situations. Sadly, today, many …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – Step 4

Last week I discussed the third step in Cheryl Richardson’s book “Take Time for Your Life”. This week I will be looking at Step 4. The content in this chapter is highly specialized and applying it to how we can help ourselves become better parents or the parents we want to be is one I do not believe to be in my remit as a Parenting Advisor! I will however, share with you what I took away from it. Step 4: “If you feel trapped by money, investing in your financial health will stop making you feel like a victim.” It is interesting to note that in Richardson’s work as a coach, she claims that a lack of financial reserves is the biggest obstacle to her clients living the lives they most want. She is convinced that once you take full responsibility for your financial health, money stops being a source of frustration and starts to flow into your life naturally. Having read this chapter, I feel that Richardson makes some very valid points and gives sound advice for gaining clarity on financial health. This ties into the previous chapter where she talked about the things in our lives that …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – Step 3

Last week I discussed the second step in Cheryl Richardson’s book “Take Time for Your Life”. This week I will be looking at Step 3 and applying it to how we can help ourselves become better parents or the parents we want to be. Step 3: “Identify the things that drain you and eliminate them – people, places, and things – once and for all” Richardson, cleverly, uses an analogy of an internal energy barometer that lies within all of us. Certain things will cause these levels to fall and others will cause them to rise. Every action we take uses energy but more importantly, and often over-looked, is that actions you don’t take use energy as well, like distractions, disorganization, incomplete tasks and things that hang over you.  Interestingly, when Richardson works with clients, right off the bat, she spends more time removing things from their lives instead of setting goals. With this in mind, as parents, maybe we should be looking at removing things from our lives that drain us and cause our energy levels to fall before we embark on other things? There are certainly times in my parenting life where I would have happily removed my …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – Step 2

Last week I discussed the first step in Cheryl Richardson’s book “Take Time for Your Life”. This week I will be looking at Step 2 and applying it to how we can help ourselves become better parents or the parents we want to be. Step 2: “If your schedule doesn’t reflect your priorities, stop reacting to life and take control of what gets your time and attention.” Some of the points that Cheryl Richardson makes regarding this are as follows, the key being, CHOICE: Don’t confuse tough choices with no choices – we always have a choice If you want a quick and dramatic improvement in the quality of your life, make a big choice Time is a gift that most of us take for granted We get so caught up in the busyness of our daily lives that we rarely stop and take a serious look at how we’re spending this gift of time We can’t manage time, time will always tick away no matter what we do! We can, however, manage ourselves; this is self-management not time management In order to prioritize, we first need to know what our priorities actually are and then what things currently take …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE – STEP 1

Last week I introduced you to a seven part blog I will be doing on the seven steps that Cheryl Richardson, author of “Take Time for Your Life”, recommends you should take in order to take time for your life. This week I am focussing on Step 1.  Step 1: “If you think selfish is a dirty word, learn to practice extreme self-care; put yourself at the top of the list and everyone else will benefit” If you are anything like me, the concept of self-care sometimes sits low on my list of priorities. Cheryl Richardson goes as far as saying that it should be extreme self-care. However we choose to define it, it is probably one of the most important things we should be doing for ourselves. As parents, I think it is fair to say we are not that great at doing this; there is always something else which seems more important. At the end of the day though, we have a choice as to how we want to live our lives and that should be to honor some degree of self-care. After all, how can we look after our family and be “good” parents if we don’t …Read more →

TAKE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE

With the summer holidays virtually on us, I thought it would be a good idea to find some ways to make sure that I get some time to myself. If you are anything like me, as much as I love the summer holidays and having the kids around, I find that I rarely get time to myself and as we advance through the holidays I find my patience fraying and often just want to escape the family all together! The bottom line is, everyone needs some time for themselves and for parents this is especially so. Just as I was thinking about doing this, I happened to be recommended a book called “Take Time for Your Life” by Cheryl Richardson. It’s weird how things like that show up in our lives; we think about doing something and before we know it, something is presented to us, to guide us down that very particular path. More details about this book about this book can be found here: http://www.amazon.ca/Take-Time-Your-Cheryl-Richardson/dp/0767902076/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1403990522&sr=1-1&keywords=take+time+for+your+life This book is rated a #1 best seller and it offers an inspiring, practical, seven-step program to help you create the life you want. I think that many of us will often have …Read more →

Recommended Parenting Books

There are so many parenting books out there that the choice can be daunting. Which ones should you turn to and which parenting style / author should you follow? Having read many parenting books these are my current top 4 picks: Book 1: “Honey I Wrecked the Kids” by Alyson Schafer The Adlerian Parenting Style is a style that many parents are adopting today because quite simply, it works. Alyson Schafer M.A Counseling. B.Sc., an Adlerian Parenting Expert, has provided in her book “Honey I Wrecked the Kids” the blueprint to understanding – and correcting – misbehavior. It is laid out in an easy to understand format with humor and insight which will provide parents with just what they are looking for. If you have children between the ages of 2 and 10 years and can only read one book on parenting, this would be my recommendation to you. Books 2 and 3: “Girls on the Edge” and “Boys Adrift” by Leonard Sax Leonard Sax, M.D., Ph.D., is a family physician, psychologist and acclaimed author of many parenting books. I would highly recommend parents of children ages 9 – 12 years to consider reading these two of his many books: …Read more →