Firstly, I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a Happy New Year. I hope that it is one filled with connection, love, laughter and luck. However, I want it to be filled with more than that.
Are you tired of drifting along with no real direction to your parenting? Always feel tired, busy and overwhelmed?
This is a longer blog post than usual for me but if you want to make some significant changes to your parenting then hang in here. You won’t regret it.
This is the best thing that you will ever give your kids.
Over the course of this year, I would like to coach you through the parenting challenges that you will undoubtedly face. Some of these challenges may be repeat ones and some of them will be new as your children move into different phases of their lives.
I want to spend this year with you. Side by side. Holding you accountable. Asking you questions and being the reminder you need to help you stay on track as you navigate the twists and turns and the ups and downs that come with being a parent. Through my blogs, emails, workshops and webinars I will be your virtual Parent Coach.
Staying on track is the key piece. It’s huge, massive, ENORMOUS.
I am going to put my head on a block and ask you to consider this bold statement:
You Are Not Raising Your Children But Raising Yourself
I don’t know about you but I feel that my children deserve that I raise my own bar in order to raise them. I’ve never been a parent before but know firsthand, from being one for the last 15 years, that nothing I have ever done has forced me to raise my game or brought out things in me like parenting has.
With this in mind, I’d like you to take a peek at these stats:
- 80% of people don’t have goals
- 16% of people think about their goals but don’t write them down
- 3% of people think about their goals and write them down
- 1% of people think about their goals, write them down and regularly review them
- Those 1% are among the highest achievers
This would suggest that if you set some parenting goals and you write them down and you review them regularly, you stand an excellent chance of achieving them.
Many people kick start the New Year with resolutions and I’ll take a bet that most of those are around diet, health, fitness, personal development, making sure they commit to their relationships with date nights, girls nights out, book clubs and the likes. I’ll take a second bet that few of them are around parenting goals. If this sounds familiar, that’s about to change!
I’d like to share a story from a participant in one of my parenting classes. On the first night of the group class this person shared something with an honesty and vulnerability that I admired:
“It’s unbelievable to think that I watch what I eat and try to be healthy. I pay to be a member of a gym. I sign up for the latest fitness fads, buy the new heart rate monitor and regularly go on personal development courses to improve myself for my work. I have hired fitness coaches and business coaches. When I am asked what is the most important thing in my life – it’s not me or my work. It is my kids and my family. Yet… in all of this, I have never done anything towards making myself a better parent. In fact, I am not proud to admit that I don’t think I have ever read a parenting book.”
If you can relate to this then you are probably in a similar boat. Let’s face it, most of us are.
Over the course of my life as a parent I have contributed to the stats in each of the categories above but for the last few years I’m proud to admit that I am where I want to be.
It takes tremendous effort to be in that 1%, but for me, seeing and reaping the benefits of doing so makes it a continued priority. I am by no means the perfect Mom. In my book there is no such thing, but I do know that before I did what I do now, things were not half as good. I feel that doing this is the very least that I can give my kids.
If you feel that you are in a boat, drifting along, hoping that the challenges you face will simply disappear and would rather be in a boat where you are steering it with intention, steering it exactly where you want it to go with some goals and a plan, then you are in the right place.
I can and would love to help you navigate and steer your ship through whatever currents you find yourself amidst and set some goals around your parenting practice. I will guide, coach and motivate you to raise yourself and help you join the 1%.
I’m going to be doing it. Care to join me?
Here’s what will be happening:
- Once a month I will be posting a blog on this site
- Once a week I will send you a short email with the weekly call to action, tip and reminder pertaining to “Raising Yourself”
- Once a week I will post updates and tips on the YPP Facebook page
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I’m so excited and look forward to next week when we will begin. Make sure you check your INBOX this next week for the first email of this inaugural series.